Parents talk about the gentle parenting approach of accepting children’s “strange” ideas

Parents tend to reject their children’s unconventional ideas without giving them a chance. This is because they are often too exhausted to deal with the potential consequences that may arise. Over time, this leads to saying “no” becoming an automatic response.

However, Twitter user Lucy Huber took a different approach and decided to say “yes” to her 2-year-old son’s request to take his Hot Wheels ramp into the bath. In a Twitter thread that has garnered over 210,000 likes, Huber shared how this decision resulted in a positive experience for both of them.

Huber’s tweet resonated with a large number of Twitter users, who shared their own experiences of trying out this gentle parenting approach and finding positive outcomes.

Sarah Ockwell-Smith, an expert on parenting and author of “The Gentle Parenting Book” from 2016, defines gentle parenting as a combination of empathy, understanding, and respect. The approach aims to foster a partnership between the parent and child. Ukrainian psychologist and certified NLP specialist Irina Matveeva shares this perspective and suggests that refusing small children’s requests with a “no” can have adverse effects on them.

“When we say ‘No’ to a small child, it often negatively affects them,” Matveeva told Bored Panda. “If an adult can logically explain the reason for almost any refusal, then the toddler may well perceive that they are being refused because they’re either bad or doing something wrong. Some parents and teachers believe that agreeing with the child on everything means spoiling them. Of course, there is such a risk, so it is important to stay on the edge, not fall into coaxing the kid.”

“But in any case, don’t be afraid to approve of their ideas–when they grow up, they will perfectly learn to restrain themselves when it’s important. For now, you just develop their creativity. And if the child offers something outstandingly weird–yes, it happens too, maybe just try to switch their attention to something no less interesting,” Matveeva’s input was followed by additional perspectives from Twitter users: